Friday, May 7, 2010

Chilling in Kushtia

This is a wonderful representation of our time in Kumerkhali with my parents:-) The air was clean and fresh. There were lots of animals wondering about. Somehow everyone seems to know which one is theirs! We took lots of walks and like the photo above shows with my dad, we attracted quiet a crowd. Most people know my dad as Mr. Don. Below is a photo of my favorite animal the moish or water buffalo! How can you not just love that face. The owner said it was OK to touch them but their ears kept slapping me and must have weight 10 pound a piece. What a cool part of God's creation!

This does not even begin to describe the crowds that Adam could draw! In this instance we visited the home of the famous poet. Adam stood in front of the gates to take a photo and then about 75 people decided they each wanted to take a photo with him. It was incredibly hilarious and I wish I had thought to get a video of it but I might have been laughing too hard. We had someone then take our family photo after we snuck off to the side. Adam learned a little about what celebrities feel like when they go out into the general population!
Afterwards we took a walk bu the lovely river. It was cool but sunny and a great day to explore a little more around my parents house! We had lots of visitors while we were there. Below is a photo of Roshan our helper from when my parents lived in Kushtia. Everyone wanted to meet the Jamai (this means son-in-law) which Adam was. In Bengali culture the engagement period is only about 3 weeks so the concept of a 6 month engagement was difficult to translate so to most people he was the Jamai or son-in-law. The Jamai has a very special place of honor in the culture as you want to treat him nicely so he will treat your daughter nicely (not a concern in our case). People continually wanted Adam to eat (again why I was glad he would try new foods) and wanted to give him the best of what they had. It is a very generous culture and they really liked how peaceful and tall Adam was! I of course was very proud to get to marry him and to have everyone meet him!
This is a photo from our Landlord's daughter's birthday party. They love to party in Bangladesh. The power went out a few times but that did not stop the festivities! This was the first day of 2010!
Dad and some of the men
The party crowd!
We spent New Years Day at Jahangir and family's home. We ate a wonderful meal. Jhangir has been working with my dad for years and helps run the arsenic program now as my dad has taken on an additional position as director of the health and outreach project in Kumerkhali that my mom works with. They were such gracious hosts which is a theme you see in so many Bengali families!

This was taken before church one Thursday. There is not really an organized 'church' but it is growing. It was special to be able to worship with brothers and sisters in Christ from across the world. They made a time to pray for our upcoming marriage which was really special to Adam and I both.
We spent our evenings and nights playing games and doing puzzles. There is not really a living room there so most of our time was spent on the porch which is where the photo above was taken. Otherwise were were at the dinning table. Adam stayed in the empty apartment next door. I was glad he could stay so close!
Below and above are just a random assortment of photos from different walks and outings that we took. I loved the goats and how they would be dressed in t-shirts at any hint of a chill. The cows had sacks tied around their backs anytime the temps reached in the 50's. It is normally so hot in Bangladesh that 50 degrees seems like frost bite potential! It is cold when you are taking showers without hot running water. Adam took a few cold but I always heated up water on the stove for a bucket bath!

I loved this view of kids just hanging out in the rice field! Below you can see beans and lentil drying. The women sift through them with they feet. You can see the lines in the beans where their feet have been. These beautiful blue king fishers could be seen all over!
We went out with my dad one day to several of the homes in the area that he has provided arsenic filters to. They were all so excited to have him come to their home and then to show Adam the filters. If the arsenic poisoning is caught quickly enough and the affected individual stops drinking the water they can avoid the end organ damage that causes death. It is amazing how these filters can help change the outcomes of stories and build bridges with people in the community. My dad continues to direct this project and other health care project. Needless to say they are very busy! This photos was taken outside the house with the lady that helps my mom out three days a week. She loves these goats and wanted to take a photo with us and the goats. They belong to our landlord but everyone helps to keep them fed. I love that the little goat is wearing a t-shirt!

Time in Dhaka

My dad says that every second in Bangladesh there is a photo opportunity. It is true and Dhaka has grow so much since I used to live there with my parents. It is bigger and noisier with more people and you can eat some variation of almost any type of food. In the photo below these goats are waiting to become food for someone. It is a crazy mixture of third world and rural life with those who are try to industrialize the area for some sort of commercial gain. Even so you still have goats waiting for the slaughter.
My favorite part about our time in Dhaka was getting to see my old friends who I have miraculously been able to keep in some touch with and having them meet Adam. We had all either taught together or I had taught them English. They were so thrilled to meet the man I was going to marry and all had progressed in their English skills since I had seen them last. They had also all multiplied with new babies and husbands! It was such a blast! My Bangla was rough at best but they were gracious as always to let me try to remember some! Adam did a great job adjusting even with the jet lag and decided to practice eating with his hands when we got to the village and there weren't so many people watching! That is one thing that is consistant in Bangladesh; people want to watch you do things!



Mom had arranged to have a rice meal so were were able to share dinner and then have some great cha! Adam and I love the cha (it is hard not to love since it is made with sweetened condensed milk)!

Bithi asked me before she left if she was crazy being worried about their transport. I said she was not crazy and should drive safely! Takes talent to ride with four on a motor bike! We left the next day with my parents for the village. It is only about 70 miles I think but it takes 6 hours. You take a bus then a ferry then the bus again. Don't worry - we were on a much bigger ferry than the one below but they really know how to pack the passengers on!
There was a wait to get on the ferry so we decided to walk around. Adam really liked the omlets that they made on the side of the road and then wrapped in bread. I was so thankful that he likes to try so many new foods! I just ate a bannana to avoid bus sickness. There are some crazy drivers in Bangladesh!
The trucks are all painted in vibrant colors. I loved the detail and brightness of this fuel tank!Back on the ferry! Mom and Dad are such good travelers and take time to stop and talk with people. Everyone wants to try their English with you (we stuck out again being so fair skinned and Adam so tall). Adam attracted a ton a attention and had fun trying out Bangla phrases that he learned. He caught on quickly!
When we were done with our trip and arrived in Kumerkhali where my parents live we decided to get something to eat on the way home. Adam tried to eat with his hands and of course everyone in the restaurant wanted to watch. They were thrilled that he came and wanted him to come back everyday. He was a very memorable part of their year I am sure!

This is a typical train scence going through my parent's town. Buisness is conducted on the tracks until a train comes and people just move their stands to the side. Just like the ferry - they know how to pack on the passengers!

Bangladesh Christmas

After getting engaged (I think just 6-8 hours after) Adam and I were on a plane to Bangladesh. We stopped first in Hong Kong - take a look at their great Christmas decorations! Whoever invented the purple Christmas tree was a genius:-) We looked for authentic Hong Kong food and then after finding it decided we would eat where it looked most safe and clean! Our favorite was the bubble tea! Adam and I had a blast walking around and looking at all the sites. The people there are very high fashion and we just tried to blend, something that we were not able to do very well with my blond hair and Adam's long legs!My favorite place that we visited was the bird aviary. There is a toucan behind me that you can't see. We wandered around for about 6 hours, took a ferry and drank some more bubble tea and then it was back to the airport for the last leg of the flight. Adam had never been out of the country and was a fantastic travel partner - he caught on quick and now has stamps in his new passport!
We arrived in Bangladesh right before Christmas and were glad to be off the plane. I was so glad to be with my family and get to show off my new Fiance. Of course they had met him before but he was just my boyfriend at that time!
Lynn send some sausage bread which is a Schroeder family favorite. We heated it up and had a Christmas breakfast. Adam is new convert to the deliciousness of sausage bread! He likes food in general but this was a great combo of meat and bread! I still do not like red meat so I let my family enjoy the yumminess!

We did other normal Christmas things like rickshaw rides. Adam was a full head taller than most people and I could not resist snapping this photo.
Other normal Christmas things like trying on lungies which Bangladeshi men wear. I don't think Adam has gotten his out since we came home but they practical in Asia! Mom and Dad gave us our first Christmas ornament as a soon-to-be married couple (that is what I am wearing as a hat)

Our Christmas "tree":-) Abigail sent this cute ornament and it was the only one on the Christmas "tree":-)
Dad got to look at the Adventure Book and see what a creative job Adam had done!
The happy couple!
Mom made a great dinner that night and we even had stove top stuffing! Adam had been asleep seconds before this photo but we woke him up for dinner!
We went walking around Dhaka and found this beautiful hotel that was recently built we were able to use their bathrooms and stand next to this giant tree. Since we are Caucasian thought we were rich and staying there (little did they know)!
And what Christmas time would be complete without the single blade shave. Adam made it though with just a few nicks and cuts and was as handsome as ever in the end!

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Engaged!

It has been over a year now since Adam first asked me on a date. A lot has happened in the last few years of my life and I feel so blessed to have Adam in my life now as my Fiance!! As many of you know we are engaged! The picture below is from our anniversary. I left town the next day to go to CA to visit my family. It was quite a semester and Adam and I were just glad to have a break. Adam was suppose to meet me at the airport on the night of the 22nd to begin our trip to Bangladesh. Instead he came in a day early arriving at 1 am so that he could be there when I woke up....It was a great surprise!!!!
We visited with my sisters and then left for the beach. Adam had a day planned and wheels to drive us so we headed to the beach for the afternoon. It was gorgeous, windy and sunny. We walked around the lighthouse and then ate lunch on the beach. After lunch Adam asked me turn toward the wall and ran back to the car. I was compliant;-) It turns out he had been waiting for a few people on the beach to walk by so he didn't have an audience while he proposed. I guess that is the introvert in him that I love!
He then brought out a small guitar from the car that he had borrowed from our friends the Millers. And he sang me a song; Umbrella. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the song some of the lyrics are below. For those of you who are familiar with the lyrics he did sing the Umbrella-ella part;-) I just really liked the beat and the words of the song.
When the sun shines, we'll shine together
Told you I'll be here forever
Said I'll always be a friend
Took an oath, I'm gonna stick it out till the end

Now that it's raining more than ever
Know that we'll still have each other
You can stand under my umbrella

You can run into my arms
It's okay don't be alarmed
Come here to me
There's no distance in between our love
So the picture below is not of when he was actually singing the umbrella song but just had to get one in of my good looking musician!
Next he then gave me a scrapbook that he had put together - Ruth and Adam's Adventure Book. For the past few weeks Adam had been sending me postcards of photos of places we had been together and pictures that we had taken. There was one from Chipotle where we first met, the lake, baseball games and other trips. The scrapbook had a place for each of the photos and then other photos from our times together. While I was looking through the book a giant elephant seal came from the ocean and started coming towards us. I jumped up on the log and Adam I think started to laugh. This guy was huge!

Eventually the sea lion decided to go back in the water and I was able to sit again, dust the sand off the book and look through the rest. I am sure by this time Adam was about to explode but he was calm and waited until I stopped screaming and laughing about the huge elephant seal coming from the ocean:-) When I got to the end of the scrap book it had an empty slot for a postcard that I had not gotten yet.


With this Adam got down on one knee and said that he wanted to spend that rest of his life with me. He said that he wanted this to be the memory that filled the last empty spot in the scrap book. He asked me to be his wife. I said YES with tears, excitement and laughter. We took a bunch of pictures and then enjoyed the rest of the afternoon just taking some photos and enjoying the sunset.


We were and are very excited to start thinking of life together!!
Some answers to some FAQs are: We are getting married in Kansas City on June 26, 2010 at 6pm, so this summer! The address 1828 Walnut, Kansas City, MO 64108. Adam has put together a really great website at http://www.weddingwire.com/ruthandadam. You can RSVP early, learn more about the wedding and keep up-to-date on all the plans. We are planning to have a picnic on Friday before the wedding at Shawnee Mission Park Pavilion 5 (http://www.jcprd.com/parks_facilities/shawnee_mission_shelters.cfm). Come start the weekend off with some hanging out by the lake! We are thankful for your role in our lives and look forward to hopefully seeing you soon!